Part II: Balderdash
Part II: Balderdash
Part 1: The Acorn
They say you can tell a lot about a person from the way he treats his subordinates. I was born with an under-bite and my parents, not wanting their daughter to be mistaken for Jay Leno’s bastard (can a girl be a bastard?), decided to get me braces when I was in elementary school. I say “get me braces” like it was a gift, and looking back with my straight teeth, it was, but at the time I saw my friends wincing from the pain of newly tightened braces and thought, “I think I’ll live with this under-bite.” It seemed that the only person in the world who wanted braces was Joanna, the daughter of my parents’ friends.
Our parents often dined together on the weekends, leaving me, Joanna and her sister Jennifer at home to entertain ourselves, which Joanna did brilliantly for all three of us. When I showed up one evening with my new decked out smile, she gasped. “Brace are gorgeous!” she gushed and raced about finding wire to put on her own teeth. Joanna, who’s favorite television shows (from the age of 10 to 14) were “Xena,” “Hercules,” and “Power Rangers,” had perfect teeth. Instead of giving her an under bite God gave her half a brain.
But before my mouth was to be admired by Joanna, my parents had first to find an orthodontist.
“Your aunt recommended someone,” my mom said one afternoon, “Angela and Michelle see him too.”
I’m pretty sure that by then, I’d spent a good amount of breath laughing at my cousins, calling them “metal mouth,” “train tracks” and, had I been clever enough, “tin grin.” But back then I didn’t yet know about my unspoken deal with God or Vishnu or whomever is in charge of Karma around here. Basically, what goes around comes around – in my universe anyway – and a few months after my cousins got their braces, the rough hands of a rather burly dentist glued the same metal torture devices were glued onto my teeth.
I forget his name, but let’s just call him Cuddles. To his patients he spoke soothingly, his voice smooth and thick, the cadence of which was meant to mask the brisk, jerky movements with which he worked. On my first visit I walked in and heard the unmistakeable spine-tingling whirr of the dental drill and a strange hammering, followed by an even more terrifying pluck – the sound of braces being popped off one by one to reveal straightened, obedient teeth along with, surprise, surprise, the festering decay. That’s the dirty secret of braces: you’ll have straight teeth, but if you didn’t brush correctly during the correction period, well, you’ve got about five years to enjoy them. Max. Cuddles’ waiting room was filled with kids and teens, as though he marketed himself exclusively in cafeteria lunch trays.
“Apparently he’s a real hit with the kids,” I had heard my mother say to my dad, and now, looking around the waiting room, it appeared to be so. Mothers waited languidly while their children lay on a deceivingly comfortable vinyl and paper wrapped chair, mouths stretched as wide as they would go while Cuddles ducked in and out with his picks and small mirrors. When he emerged, the mothers would leap up to pat their children (lips cracked, mouths slightly bigger) on the head and nod vigorously and concernedly at whatever Cuddles was saying. Always, he spoke with an exaggerated graveness, as though poorly kept teeth and loose braces would lead to long spells in prison. I could tell, even at the young age of nine, that Cuddles was in love with himself. What’s more, I could tell that several of the young mothers were in love with him as well. What’s not to love about a man who knows how to use tools, keeps unruly children in check and could practically call himself a doctor?
As befitting a man with a short, fast temper, he drove a fast, expensive car, purchased with the deformities and decay of pubescent teeth. He spoke at a pompous volume and walked with a swagger that seem to afflict many men with similar degrees. His surgical mask was never fully on, and instead hung limply from his left ear like a forlorn, discarded handkerchief. Its intended use, I could see, got in the way of his view of himself in the office’s many mirrors. However expected of someone with his ego, his habit of self-adoration confused me. Cuddles was ugly. Not only was he short and stocky in a most unattractive way, he had suffered cystic acne as a child and it had left him with small, gaping craters on his face, as though he’d seen a meteor shower and stuck his face into it.
I’m certain I wasn’t the only kid to hate him – after all, the man tortured our teeth every few months or so, having his assistants call us at home every few weeks during a particularly delicious lunch to remind us that we were overdue for a tightening. As soon as we hung up we’d look down at the food, knowing full well that it would be weeks before we could enjoy biting into it again. But you can’t fault a man for trying to help you. No, my teeth are straight; he did his job well. I didn’t like him because he seemed to hate each of his soft-spoken, doe-eyed assistants. It was as though he lived by two rules: never bite the hands that feed you, these being the hands of his patients’ mothers, and chew off those of whom you pay.
He employed a handful of young, timid Asian girls who had hoped for quiet careers as dental technicians but had unwittingly enlisted to work for Satan in a white coat. They were screamed at and humiliated. No matter what juicy gossip was being divulged in the latest of People Magazine, one could stop cold when Cuddles berated his assistants. He called them “idiots,” “dummies,” “morons,” and other Chinese equivalents. He threatened to fire them in front of his patients and, I heard from my aunt, actually did once, right in the middle of a removal: (“You idiot… pluck…you’re….pluck… FIRED!”) The brave ones who didn’t quit after a week courageously stayed, I like to think, for the patients’ sakes. They did their jobs well, for it was their presence more than anything that put me at ease, and held their hands steady even while Cuddles barked behind their ear, his hot breath showering over both of us.
In the end, my teeth were more cooperative than most other kids’. My under-bite became a proper bite in less than half a year. Even Cuddles was surprised by my progress, but he masked this quickly with his usual hubris. “My…pluck….amazing…pluck…technique…. blah…pluck…blah…pluck…blah.” I guessed that jaw, tired of Cuddles’ constant, violent intrusions and temper tantrums, worked furiously to correct itself. “Anything to get away from that horrible man,” it said. I got out with two cavities, a set of gum-pink retainers and directions to wear them everyday when I went to bed.
“If you don’t,” Cuddles warned, “I’ll be seeing you again real soon.”
For the first two months I wore those retainers with militant devotion until one afternoon, I’d wrapped them in a napkin to eat lunch and was horrified to find that I’d accidentally thrown them away. Rather than dig through the school’s trashcans, I decided to pray. To God, to Vishnu – whoever was in charge of Karma, paid in full. “What goes around has come around,” I whispered, “Please, please, please keep my underbite at bay. I don’t ever want to see Cuddles again.”
And whomever I had appealed to took note and let my teeth retain their position without the retainer. Now, when people compliment my teeth I give credit where credit is due.
“I had a dickhead orthodontist named Cuddles,” I say, “But he had some great assistants.” Hope they’re not there anymore; but if they are, they ought to remind themselves that what goes around come around, however long it may take.
I wonder what sort of figure I cut, walking down the driveway in my pajamas at 1pm every weekday afternoon to get the mail. In a way, it’s quite poetic because the pajamas are ones I bought when I first moved to New York for college.
We live on a street of retirees, though most seem to be busier than I’ve ever been. They go to the gym, run errands, golf, take long ski and fishing vacations in other states, have friends and family over by the dozens, garden, write letters to my mother on flowery stationery (assuming that she too, is retired) inviting her to join them on various garden tours where brunch is included. They are probably so busy they never really see me getting the mail at 1pm, but if they did, they’d probably think, “My, we watched that girl grow up and now we’ll watch her age and wither. Does she ever change out of those pajamas? What a shame.” And they see me feeling productive because I’m getting out of the house to fetch the mail. Indoors, I putter quietly around the house, drowsy in the morning when my parents have already been up for two or three hours, and energetic by the time they’ve left to attend their own things – I rub my eyes and poof – I’m alone. The house is quiet. There’s no one to talk to.
When I was younger, I relished afternoons like this because it meant I could watch television uninterrupted. Now, I don’t really watch TV. I don’t really know what’s on TV and when I turn it on, it seems almost foreign. A strange cousin to the internet, more talkative, more boisterous. I always end up turning it off after channel surfing for two seconds.
The next best thing then, is to go online. After email, Facebook and occasionally, twitter, (though I still don’t really understand the point), is surfing the internet, an activity I perfected (along with the masses in my generation) in college. It’s aimless at first – bona-fide surfing – jumping from link to link, never knowing where the blue words might take you. Then you get smart and narrow down the scope to a few choice websites you go back to again and again to get everything: news, gossip, fashion, food, travel. The NYTimes.com is a favorite. I think ninety percent of the news I read comes from the NYTimes.com.The other ten percent is hearsay and a mishmash of outdated news magazines. Before I scoffed at the notion of paying for online journalism, but when they started charging a few weeks ago and limited the number of articles I could read for free, I panicked. I agonized for days, debating whether I should shell out four dollars a week (or something) to keep my NYTimes.com addiction while living frugally off the meager ten free-article allowance.
I even tried some other news sites: LATimes.com, boston.com, the SF Chronicle which online, inexplicably, is called SF Gate. But it was like trying to replace a beloved dog or switching to a new blogging platform.The layouts were weird and jumbled. The reporters seemed less motivated. I could have done it, switched to another, less expensive news source. Give me time and I’ll adapt to anything. But it wasn’t as though the NYTimes had burned to the ground and would never update their site again. The days ticked by and I began to feel my brain withering. Finally, the feeling that I was missing out and falling behind pulled my wallet out. Wasn’t I falling behind in enough already? I imagined conversing at a dinner party with people who had read all ten articles on the “Most E-mailed” list and eliciting an embarrassing blank stare.
“I don’t have a subscription,” I imagined saying.
“Betty. It’s four dollars. Even homeless people sometimes have four dollars.”
The least I could do was stay on top of the news (and the weddings and celebrations of the upper classes). I made up my mind and paid to stay in the know.
After I devour the NYTimes I head over to People.com to see what my friends in Hollywood are up to. It’s not a guilty pleasure. Not anymore. Before, I’d close the page whenever someone walked into my room and open the NYTimes.com tab, making sure to scroll down to the middle or open up some random article on Bernie Madoff or testicular cancer. I have a blog called “Very Highbrow” and when you have a blog named such, you have to keep up appearances. But that got old real fast because sometimes, all I want to read about is why Taylor Swift broke up with Taylor Lautner and what the hell Lady Gaga was thinking, wearing meat to some awards show. Now when someone walks in and I’m surfing People.com, I say, “Hey, come and check out what my husband Shia (LaBeouf) is up to.” Chances are, people will say, “Oh that chump? Okay. Show me.”
And after all that, it’s only about 1:30pm. Now I’m desperate. The day seems interminable now – and if the weather is anything like today’s – grey, overcast, chilly…a mirage of perpetual early morning- I can’t even develop a biological sense of time. I start to fear nightfall because I know it will come swiftly and in a blink of an eye I’ll be sitting by lamplight, wondering what the hell I did with my day. That’s when I think, “Alright. I’ll write to pass the time.”
And I do. I write. Something. Anything. Like this entry about getting the mail and my favorite websites. And it’s got a few paragraphs. It seems long-ish. I lean back now, ready to put my feet up, ready to click “Publish post,” but not before I glance at the time: 1:58 pm.
Now what do I do?
I got a job. It’s not a full-time job but it pays, a rarity given all the positions listed on my resume. Not that anyone’s asking me for career advice – “You’re only twenty-five,” you might think, “What do you know?” Continue reading “Crunch Time”
Every Friday morning between 10 and 11:30 am, our pool man comes. As most pool men do, he drives a small truck and works alone, wearing faded shorts, a t-shirt, and if he feels like it, a baseball cap to protect his crown. The most extravagant thing about his ensemble is perhaps the pair of Oakley sunglasses he is never without and which protect his fifty-something year old eyes from the glare of pool water. I know they are Oakley because once on a particularly hot day, I walked outside to say hello and stood less than two feet away from him. Continue reading “The Pool Man”
A few months ago my mother asked me to buy her a fish. Continue reading “Little Fish”
In last weekend’s Financial Times (a very highbrow newspaper) I came across a series of interviews with astronauts from all around the world. I particularly liked what Jim Lovell had to say about his time in space:
“The impression I got up there wasn’t what the moon looked like so close up, but what the Earth looked like. The lunar flights give you a correct perception of our existence. You look back at Earth from the moon and you can put your thumb up to the window and hide the Earth behind your thumb. Everything you’ve ever known is behind your thumb, and that blue-and-white ball is orbiting a rather normal star, tucked away on the outer edge of a galaxy. You realise how insignificant we really all are. Everything you’ve ever known – all those arguments and wars – is right behind your thumb.”
For much of my life I’ve dreamed about being one of those early risers who jump out of bed at five or six am, run six miles, shower, put on a pot of coffee, read the paper, answer emails and who is out of the house by eight am to conquer the world. Continue reading “Time”
My diploma came in the mail last night in a thickish envelope. Continue reading “Educated”